You’ve checked the boxes. You’ve achieved the goals. So why does it still feel like something’s missing?

 

There might be a simple explanation:

You’ve been following someone else’s definition of what matters.

Try this: Identify your Top Ten Values (Pro tip: If your mind goes blank after listing a few, keep asking—your subconscious holds hidden gems!), then see where they fall:

“That’s SO me!”

Values that feel energizing and true

Example: When “Curiosity” brings sparkle in your eyes

“I should want this…”

Values that feel like borrowed expectations

Example: “Hustle” when you thrive in flow

“That drains me”

Values that consistently deplete your energy

Example: “Perfection” when you prefer “Good enough”

This isn’t about good/bad—it’s about noticing:

• What fuels you vs. what depletes you

• What feels authentic vs. what feels imposed

When we operate from “should” values, we often find:

External validation…

Societal approval…

But less personal energy to enjoy it

This isn’t about fixing—it’s about noticing what works for you.

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If you’d like to explore this further, I’ve created a free workbook with:

The complete 200+ values list

Space to observe your reactions neutrally

Simple prompts to help you discern what serves you

Want the free workbook to explore further? Comment ‘‘ and I’ll send it to you – let’s plant the seed of your clarity together.