In NLP, we presuppose: People Are Always Doing the Best They Can
Whuttttt??? No way, Yi. I can name at least 10 people who are NOT doing the best they can!
Except that… really… they are.
At every moment, we make the best choice available—based on our conditioning, our experiences, and the “programs” running in our minds. (Yes, that sounds techy, but stick with me—we’re gloriously messy humans, not computers!)
Whuttttt??? No way, Yi. I can name at least 10 people who are NOT doing the best they can!
Except that… really… they are.
At every moment, we make the best choice available—based on our conditioning, our experiences, and the “programs” running in our minds. (Yes, that sounds techy, but stick with me—we’re gloriously messy humans, not computers!)
The key word is available. Not “possible,” not “ideal”—but what’s actually accessible in someone’s inner system right now.
If a better option were available within their current patterns and awareness in the moment, they’d choose it.
This isn’t about making excuses—it’s about recognizing that growth happens when we expand what’s available in our mental and emotional toolkit.
So next time you’re tempted to judge (yourself or others), remember: We’re all running on different internal code.
The work isn’t to “fix” anyone—it’s to help install better and better options.
Not software. Not hardware. Humanware. 
(P.S. – The computer metaphors are just frameworks! We’re still 100% squishy, imperfect, beautiful humans.)
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